4 kinds of People

I do not want to label people, because i might sound rude and give a lot of negative about them instead of telling each type. i am that kind of person, before. i gave an ish (ish meaning something that comes out after eating a lot)  about anyone. i always have something to say of all the people i  met. Whether one girl was just introduced to me,  i always have something on my mind :Why is her hair like that? (As if i have the  perfect hair)

But today, i learned something new today from Bro Bo Sanchez . The Four Kinds of People . That we should determine our own self, instead of identifying others. This is not about physical type, like some are thin, some are fat, etc.

  1. Go Persons – These are the life of a party. Who always have something to give, share, they have many things to give so the tendency is to give and give until all of them were gone and they feel empty. There should be balance. It is better to give than to receive, but sometimes, some people have nothing left to them and then people start complaining. (Hugot!) You pour then you run out. There is no more balance. “Without Balance, Passion will not last. “Then with no balance, you will become more stressed, sickness will come, sin perhaps may add because you think you give more.  Bro Bo gave an assignment, to write on a piece of paper The People who Nourish You and People who are Toxic to You.  (You may want to read this article, 8 types of Toxic People to Avoid! I’m sure all of you can relate. Oh number 1 is blank. I should start unfriending this. This will not help me nourish (wink)  http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/246016
  2. No Persons – There is only one answer to everything. No! As quoted on one of my fave movie Enchanted : Giselle (Amy Adams) ask Robert (starred by my fave Mcdreamy Patrick Dempsey)  : Is that the only word that you know? “No?” These are self-centered people. Unlike the Go Person, they always have something to give, but the No Person fear of losing something, they will not give any. Not even a drop. Just like Bro Bo’s example of the glass full of water. Do you think without giving any water the water will still be there forever (may forever?) No! The blessings you had is temporary and they do evaporate after a period of time and can be withdrawn depending upon our actions.
  3. The Flow Persons – the broken, the desperate, give it all! These people have a glass with cracks. The experience they have tend to neglect what are the more important to them. They continue to waste the water they have since they knew where to get the source. They knew someone was there to support them, they forgot to help themselves.
  4. The Overflow Persons – These people have a lot to give, The blessings are overflowing that’s why it okay if nothing is left to them, the blessings keep on coming. Because they knew how to balance their life, if at first they are a Go Person or a Flow Person who have been hurt, but because of that experienced, the used that experienced to give light to themselves and bless others, that’s why blessings keep coming back. Like a Boomerang, you are all out but it keeps on coming! We all hoped one day we’ll be like the Overflow people. Who will not feel empty? Will not say No to all , No fear, no Buts, No What ifs. Become like them who will  from Flow persons, will learn to heal, to forgive. Today  i learned the difference between forgiveness and mercy. When we Forgive, like Jesus, no more repetition of the past. I forgive you, but do not mixed what has been done before. Mercy on the  other hand is a  compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone whom it is within one’s power to punish or harm.

As Pope Francis said,

“God forgives all,God understand us, even in our limits, and understands us even in our contradictions.”

“With his love he tells us that when we recognize our sins he is yet closer to us and spurs us to look ahead,” said the pontiff. “When we recognize our sins and we ask forgiveness there is a party in Heaven. Jesus throws a party! This is his mercy: Do not be discouraged.”

“ ‘I cannot come to forgive,’” “But how can you ask God to forgive us, if we are not capable of forgiveness?”

Forgiving is a big thing, sure,” “However, if we open ourselves to welcome the mercy of God for us, at our turn we become more capable of forgiveness.”

Open Wide!

 

Have Faith 

Whenever you feel a negative emotion be alone in a room and just sit down with it and feel. Don’t judge it, criticize it, intellectualize it, explain it away. Allow yourself to feel the pain. It’s okay. Accompany it – breathe into it – and after a while, you’ll feel the anger or fear or sadness lose it’s urgency and power. Allow God to tenderly embrace you in your pain. And then, at the right time, you can let go. – Brother Bo Sanchez   

  

Mediocrity

mediocrity

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm “- Winston Churchill

I have a friend who always says his work and life is a mediocre. At first i thought the meaning of mediocre was ok. Or boring.

Then i decided to google it to find the right definition for mediocre
and it means of only moderate quality; not very good.

Then i started to realized, i have a mediocre life also sometimes.
I am not 100 % happy also with my job. I know i should appreciate that i have a better job compared to others.
Everyday i always thank the Lord of where i am now.
But part  of my mind always says “i can do better than this”.
I can strive more. If only i will escape my comfort zone

It doesn’t have to be that way. Adventure will find you – if you let it

Everyday routine is about doing what should be done.
I hate to compare myself with others, but sometimes i think other co employees are
not doing their job right. Others i noticed, they only come to the office for income. They even didnt come on time.
Did they not realize that customers rely on them. Some even go over break during lunch time.
I dont want to be like them. Thats why i always make it a point to do a daily checklist on what to be done. Even my boss does not require me to do that. Im just preparing everthing in case they asked for it on the future.

One day, i did not notice i started watching my favorite show online.
Others are doing this also, they can even watch 2 and half movie while
on their office time. Me just 30 minutes. But i started to think,
I am like them. I am becoming like them.

Mediocre life does not only come on work.
Even when i got home. My mom always prepare dinner.
I always thank my mom for everyday. I cant live a day without her.

Anyways, Imagine an evening at home, lying on your living room sofa. You are watching TV and flip through the channels to find if there is anything interesting to see
I really love watching because i imagine myself on others  people shoes for the things i was not able to accomplish or go and travel.
Somehow envy is there always.
However, as soon as those feelings come, they fade away just as fast and you start to wonder: “I wish my life was as exciting as these guy’s.

Then i read an article about  escaping mediocrity

 “World: 4% leaders, 96% followers.”

It’s those 4% who actually do something spectacular with their lives and the rest are just following them (instead of creating that awesome life for themselves).
How can i be one of the 4% of people

Here are the things as per article

1. Take responsibility. Don’t blame others for your situation – recognize that your past actions have put you where you are now. Be brave and take responsibility of your current life.

2. Make a decision. Decide to be different and refuse to follow the herd. When you make a decision, truly mean it and stick to it! Say to yourself: “I want to do something awesome that make others go wow!”

Don’t worry about the reactions of others. No matter if they laugh at you, remember that they are most likely jealous because they don’t have the guts to do the same thing themselves.

3. Set a goal that thrills you. Pick that big goal of yours and set the sub-goals that guide you to the big goal.

Let’s say that you want to visit all the countries in the world. The sub-goal would be to visit three new countries every year, while the ultimate goal is to visit all the countries.

Later, you can pick up the speed and decide that this year you want to visit 10 or 20 new countries, instead of just three new countries.

4. Think big, act small. Even if you have defined a big goal, take small steps on a daily basis to get there. Sometimes these daily steps could be bigger ones, but most likely you reach the big goal by making steady, small progress every day.

For example, research the weather conditions of your next destination country or plan out the places where you want to visit when you arrive into that country.

It is also important to keep your ultimate goal on your mind all the time. This helps you to justify your daily actions and keep the momentum alive. The momentum also helps you with your motivation and lowers your chances of giving up too easy.

Have your end goal visible somewhere where you can see it. It could be, for example, on the workroom wall (as a written statement) or you could create a vision board, reminding you of all the great things that will happen when you reach the goal.

5. Stretch your zone every day. This is easier said than done and depends on the goal you are striving for. In our traveling example, it could be doing some research by talking on the Skype with someone who lives in your next destination country.

The main point is that the more you do the stretching, the more you have the confidence capacity. This capacity is what you are going to need during your journey to your goal (and when escaping the mediocrity).

6. Have a support group of people you trust. These are the people who support you when you face difficulties and obstacles during your journey. This group should consist of your closest friends, your family or even your colleagues.

Give a call to your support group when you doubt yourself and let them help you to get back on the track right away!

7. Reap the rewards. Finally, when you have worked hard and reached your goals, it’s time to reflect what has happened, even celebrate a bit.

You have deserved your success – you are not an average person anymore

Conclusion

Too many times we are comfortable with our own lives and we don’t want to stretch our boundaries. Also, we don’t want to take responsibility for our actions.

If you want to escape mediocrity, you have to do the exact opposite: take responsibility and stretch your comfort zone. Actively avoid a mediocre life. It may not be always fun, but I can guarantee you – it is definitely worth it!

thank you http://chrisc.com/mediocre-life/ for the inspiration..

Morning Prayer

Aside from my Daily Rosary and Daily Novena to Padre Pio , I was looking a prayer to start my day. I was browsing the web and i  find this . Just sharing from  Paul Ndahigw: (http://paulndahigwa.whereareyou.net/?page=message&id=73911)

 

My heavenly father, as I enter this work place, I bring your presence with me. I speak your peace, your grace, your mercy and your perfect order into my work. I acknowledge your power over all that will be done, spoken, thought and decided within these walls. I commit to use them responsibly in your honor. Give me a fresh supply of strength to do my job. Anoint my projects, ideas, and energy, so that even my smallest accomplishment may bring you glory.

Lord, When I am confused, guide me.
When I am weary, energize me.
When I am burned out, infuse me with the light of the Holy Spirit.

May the work that I do and the way I do it bring faith, joy and a smile to all that I come in contact with to day.

And oh Lord,
When I leave this place, give me traveling mercy.
Bless my family and home to be in order as I left it.

Lord, I thank you for everything You’ve done, everything You are doing, and everything You are going to do.

Lord, I thank you for the gifts you have blessed me with.

In the name of Jesus I pray, with much love and thanksgiving.
AMEN

“ God’s delays are not God’s denials”
“Patience is genius”

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Easter Sunday at Padre Pio

03.31.13 I Attended The Mass Today At Padre Pio In Libis. It was an amazing experience. With Father Orbos leading the mass , with Fatima Singing, A Total Leap Of Faith. I couldn’t help but cry as Father Orbos instructed To pray hard while Fatima sings. I was Able to watched them Only On television. But this time, even it is also on a TV Screen outside the church, Its Live! I Promised Honey that we will attend the mass together on our next visi there.We will not Bring a car Or be one hour advance before The Mass. It was our first time to attend the mass at Padre Pio, we did not know that there were so many people, except that it is Easter Sunday, i was not able to come inside the church, also they have limited parking space thats why honey was not able to attend the mass with me. We wanted To Experience the Annointing of the Oil to feel more Blessed. Notwithstanding the miracle Padre Pio made to others as i read other blogs, we would like to Thank God for every days blessing, through the intercession of Padre Pio. Of course we wanted to have a baby. But as Padre Pio Said, “Pray, hope, and don’t worry. Worry is useless. God is merciful and will hear your prayer.”

Padre Pio

Do not spoil what you have

I am a newbie here in Blogging.. Today is the January 2, 2012. First day of work for the year. Start your Year right as they say.

All my colleague on a vacation leave today. I was left alone with all the busy works and stuff. At first i wanted to scream because why am i always left behind? Why am i always Alone? Why do i eat by myself, listening to my favorite music, radio, checking emails, just talking to myself and expressing my feelings through blogging. .I even got stiff neck today and is should be the one on leave not them. Arggh! Why am i on this company? I should be and Engineer and not a Banker!!

But then i realized, We don’t have to complain all those petty things and think that were always left Alone in Life. As i check other workers, like the cashier on Mc Donalds. She is smiling at me asking what my order was. I remember her face every time we order Mc Float and knowing she worked 8-10 hours a day, standing to take orders of each customer, is a hard thing to do. While me, all alone in the office, envying my former classmates in college seeing their status travelling to other country , complaining what am i doing in this company? I don’t want to compare my life with the McDonald’s cashier. But it always a slap on my face that i should be happy and contented in everything . That i am on this job, just sitting and blogging on my free time.

Just a thought to start the year of 2012. Learn to appreciate life and thank the Lord for all the Blessings in life. Start the New Year with a positive attitude.

” Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have been once among the things you only hoped for…”

Thank You Don Bosco

When I transferred to Makati last 2009, I always hear this church near our office. St John don Bosco. However I was not able to visit and have a mass there. At first i dont know where it is located and its not on the way. One Friday of January 2012 , I rode a jeepney from MRT Magallanes to Ayala. I drop in front of Don Bosco and it’s only 730 in the morning. So I say to myself, it’s early still so I decided to check the church. I am so happy to realize that there’s a mass and it’s just about to start. The church is so peaceful and quiet and you really feel the ambiance. Then I learned that mass everyday is 6 am, 730, and 6 pm. I just found myself going to mass everyday or a must every Wednesday / Friday.

We always leave our house early to avoid the traffic. I make it a point to attend the 730 am mass. When I’m at the church, I feel I am not alone. I feel God is always guiding me on my everyday work. When I call to him, He made everything easy. Every time I am at Don Bosco, when something is bothering me, The Lord made me forget what I’m worrying. It’s really a different feeling i can’t explain. Every message in the church mass feels like a punch on my face. It made me a stronger person.

Also, One thing i also noticed, after the mass, some people went to the Adoration Chapel. At first I thought, why should they go there, they just ad a mass and now they will pray again? To my curiosity, I checked the place. As I kneel, it made me cry. I cry of forgiveness and ashamed of myself for criticizing them. The adoration chapel made my faith stronger. With the scent of the Sampaguita and the cozy of the place, you really is with God through prayers. Just 5-10 minutes of prayer, It feels like A day with God.

I know I shouldn’t blog about this because it seems I’ve been talking about myself. But believe me, everyone should try it yourself. I am just doing my Faith in action to tell you guys my experience almost everyday. Everyday is indeed a blessing. Go now and experience it yourself.

 

St John Don Bosco Church

No More Bad Me

Today is January 3,2012.

As i go to my usual daily travel on MRT this morning, i noticed different type of girls.  Most of them were like me, wearing a uniform paired with my Havaianas, on their way to the office. I am bit of an observer and a bad girl. I notice one girl wearing a nice Silk Dress, having a shoulder bag (Celine or Nine West) and a nice stiletto shoes. So that made me think shes an Relationship Manager.  But made me think why is she riding the MRT.  Then this petit lady on her casual tops and low wasit slacks that made her cover her feet and shoes. It was awkward i find that cheap. Considering her low waist pants and hair that was unruly. She maybe a promo in a Supermarket. And the last girl i saw was wearing a faded tight low class jeans,maybe BNY,  a light blue blouse bought from a tiangge store and a red nail polish. Her face is pretty but kind a dry with her dyed brown hair and lips that look like a smoker. That made me think shes a CallCenter agent on her way home to sleep. This is me being a bad girl.

But then comes my realization. We should not judge people, by the dress they wore, whether its expensive ,cheap, branded or not.  I myself before was bothered about my looks when it comes to meeting clients/ vendors.  I should be wearing this and that. I buy on a Branded store when its on sale but not all the time. We should be clean and neat i guess  but not the vain type. Be pretty on the inside too, don’t just worry about your physical appearance. Its not about the Price Tag, like Jessie J song.  “Why is everybody so obsessed? Money can’t buy us happiness…..

So from now on, i will be a better person when looking to other person. I pray and i will!

 

Be who you are