4 kinds of People

I do not want to label people, because i might sound rude and give a lot of negative about them instead of telling each type. i am that kind of person, before. i gave an ish (ish meaning something that comes out after eating a lot)  about anyone. i always have something to say of all the people i  met. Whether one girl was just introduced to me,  i always have something on my mind :Why is her hair like that? (As if i have the  perfect hair)

But today, i learned something new today from Bro Bo Sanchez . The Four Kinds of People . That we should determine our own self, instead of identifying others. This is not about physical type, like some are thin, some are fat, etc.

  1. Go Persons – These are the life of a party. Who always have something to give, share, they have many things to give so the tendency is to give and give until all of them were gone and they feel empty. There should be balance. It is better to give than to receive, but sometimes, some people have nothing left to them and then people start complaining. (Hugot!) You pour then you run out. There is no more balance. “Without Balance, Passion will not last. “Then with no balance, you will become more stressed, sickness will come, sin perhaps may add because you think you give more.  Bro Bo gave an assignment, to write on a piece of paper The People who Nourish You and People who are Toxic to You.  (You may want to read this article, 8 types of Toxic People to Avoid! I’m sure all of you can relate. Oh number 1 is blank. I should start unfriending this. This will not help me nourish (wink)  http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/246016
  2. No Persons – There is only one answer to everything. No! As quoted on one of my fave movie Enchanted : Giselle (Amy Adams) ask Robert (starred by my fave Mcdreamy Patrick Dempsey)  : Is that the only word that you know? “No?” These are self-centered people. Unlike the Go Person, they always have something to give, but the No Person fear of losing something, they will not give any. Not even a drop. Just like Bro Bo’s example of the glass full of water. Do you think without giving any water the water will still be there forever (may forever?) No! The blessings you had is temporary and they do evaporate after a period of time and can be withdrawn depending upon our actions.
  3. The Flow Persons – the broken, the desperate, give it all! These people have a glass with cracks. The experience they have tend to neglect what are the more important to them. They continue to waste the water they have since they knew where to get the source. They knew someone was there to support them, they forgot to help themselves.
  4. The Overflow Persons – These people have a lot to give, The blessings are overflowing that’s why it okay if nothing is left to them, the blessings keep on coming. Because they knew how to balance their life, if at first they are a Go Person or a Flow Person who have been hurt, but because of that experienced, the used that experienced to give light to themselves and bless others, that’s why blessings keep coming back. Like a Boomerang, you are all out but it keeps on coming! We all hoped one day we’ll be like the Overflow people. Who will not feel empty? Will not say No to all , No fear, no Buts, No What ifs. Become like them who will  from Flow persons, will learn to heal, to forgive. Today  i learned the difference between forgiveness and mercy. When we Forgive, like Jesus, no more repetition of the past. I forgive you, but do not mixed what has been done before. Mercy on the  other hand is a  compassion or forgiveness shown toward someone whom it is within one’s power to punish or harm.

As Pope Francis said,

“God forgives all,God understand us, even in our limits, and understands us even in our contradictions.”

“With his love he tells us that when we recognize our sins he is yet closer to us and spurs us to look ahead,” said the pontiff. “When we recognize our sins and we ask forgiveness there is a party in Heaven. Jesus throws a party! This is his mercy: Do not be discouraged.”

“ ‘I cannot come to forgive,’” “But how can you ask God to forgive us, if we are not capable of forgiveness?”

Forgiving is a big thing, sure,” “However, if we open ourselves to welcome the mercy of God for us, at our turn we become more capable of forgiveness.”

Open Wide!

 

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Have Faith 

Whenever you feel a negative emotion be alone in a room and just sit down with it and feel. Don’t judge it, criticize it, intellectualize it, explain it away. Allow yourself to feel the pain. It’s okay. Accompany it – breathe into it – and after a while, you’ll feel the anger or fear or sadness lose it’s urgency and power. Allow God to tenderly embrace you in your pain. And then, at the right time, you can let go. – Brother Bo Sanchez   

  

When im Gone

Hi, its 2015. This is my First post. I don’t actually post often since im busy. Char! Anyways, just like to share to you my song for myself. When Im gone. Its my song if i am weak. If i feel hopeless and feeling that nobody will miss me when im gone. Feeling unappreciated at work, home, all the people around me. Its time to do something. I dont know it yet but im taking things slow. This song makes me positive that i can do more each day. I love the singer Anna, and the movie  Pitch Perfect, BTW, it has part 2 this May already. Cant Wait. Happy Singing.

Daily Prayer

09.17.14
Lord, Thank you for the day. Thank you for everyday blessings.Thank you for the birds flying in harmony, the clouds, the sun, everything.
Lord, i offer you my life. Let me be strong in all daily challenges and give me strength.
Forgive me for being self centered and not taking good care of my health.
I will never lose hope. I will continue to fight. Forgive me for over thinking everything.
Please also bless those who care for me. Those who love me.
Guide them with your Grace lord. Keep them safe always.
In Jesus name. Amen

Aja!…

Aja!

“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have—life itself.” ~Walter Anderson

Mediocrity

mediocrity

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm “- Winston Churchill

I have a friend who always says his work and life is a mediocre. At first i thought the meaning of mediocre was ok. Or boring.

Then i decided to google it to find the right definition for mediocre
and it means of only moderate quality; not very good.

Then i started to realized, i have a mediocre life also sometimes.
I am not 100 % happy also with my job. I know i should appreciate that i have a better job compared to others.
Everyday i always thank the Lord of where i am now.
But part  of my mind always says “i can do better than this”.
I can strive more. If only i will escape my comfort zone

It doesn’t have to be that way. Adventure will find you – if you let it

Everyday routine is about doing what should be done.
I hate to compare myself with others, but sometimes i think other co employees are
not doing their job right. Others i noticed, they only come to the office for income. They even didnt come on time.
Did they not realize that customers rely on them. Some even go over break during lunch time.
I dont want to be like them. Thats why i always make it a point to do a daily checklist on what to be done. Even my boss does not require me to do that. Im just preparing everthing in case they asked for it on the future.

One day, i did not notice i started watching my favorite show online.
Others are doing this also, they can even watch 2 and half movie while
on their office time. Me just 30 minutes. But i started to think,
I am like them. I am becoming like them.

Mediocre life does not only come on work.
Even when i got home. My mom always prepare dinner.
I always thank my mom for everyday. I cant live a day without her.

Anyways, Imagine an evening at home, lying on your living room sofa. You are watching TV and flip through the channels to find if there is anything interesting to see
I really love watching because i imagine myself on others  people shoes for the things i was not able to accomplish or go and travel.
Somehow envy is there always.
However, as soon as those feelings come, they fade away just as fast and you start to wonder: “I wish my life was as exciting as these guy’s.

Then i read an article about  escaping mediocrity

 “World: 4% leaders, 96% followers.”

It’s those 4% who actually do something spectacular with their lives and the rest are just following them (instead of creating that awesome life for themselves).
How can i be one of the 4% of people

Here are the things as per article

1. Take responsibility. Don’t blame others for your situation – recognize that your past actions have put you where you are now. Be brave and take responsibility of your current life.

2. Make a decision. Decide to be different and refuse to follow the herd. When you make a decision, truly mean it and stick to it! Say to yourself: “I want to do something awesome that make others go wow!”

Don’t worry about the reactions of others. No matter if they laugh at you, remember that they are most likely jealous because they don’t have the guts to do the same thing themselves.

3. Set a goal that thrills you. Pick that big goal of yours and set the sub-goals that guide you to the big goal.

Let’s say that you want to visit all the countries in the world. The sub-goal would be to visit three new countries every year, while the ultimate goal is to visit all the countries.

Later, you can pick up the speed and decide that this year you want to visit 10 or 20 new countries, instead of just three new countries.

4. Think big, act small. Even if you have defined a big goal, take small steps on a daily basis to get there. Sometimes these daily steps could be bigger ones, but most likely you reach the big goal by making steady, small progress every day.

For example, research the weather conditions of your next destination country or plan out the places where you want to visit when you arrive into that country.

It is also important to keep your ultimate goal on your mind all the time. This helps you to justify your daily actions and keep the momentum alive. The momentum also helps you with your motivation and lowers your chances of giving up too easy.

Have your end goal visible somewhere where you can see it. It could be, for example, on the workroom wall (as a written statement) or you could create a vision board, reminding you of all the great things that will happen when you reach the goal.

5. Stretch your zone every day. This is easier said than done and depends on the goal you are striving for. In our traveling example, it could be doing some research by talking on the Skype with someone who lives in your next destination country.

The main point is that the more you do the stretching, the more you have the confidence capacity. This capacity is what you are going to need during your journey to your goal (and when escaping the mediocrity).

6. Have a support group of people you trust. These are the people who support you when you face difficulties and obstacles during your journey. This group should consist of your closest friends, your family or even your colleagues.

Give a call to your support group when you doubt yourself and let them help you to get back on the track right away!

7. Reap the rewards. Finally, when you have worked hard and reached your goals, it’s time to reflect what has happened, even celebrate a bit.

You have deserved your success – you are not an average person anymore

Conclusion

Too many times we are comfortable with our own lives and we don’t want to stretch our boundaries. Also, we don’t want to take responsibility for our actions.

If you want to escape mediocrity, you have to do the exact opposite: take responsibility and stretch your comfort zone. Actively avoid a mediocre life. It may not be always fun, but I can guarantee you – it is definitely worth it!

thank you http://chrisc.com/mediocre-life/ for the inspiration..

ATV Ride at Mayon Volcano

ATV Ride at Mayon Volcano

ATV Mayon Volcano

From Lignon Hill, the guy offered us ATV ride to Mayon Lava for 1500. Hubby really can’t resist sales talk. ATV is not included in our budget. We already discuss that but he said, since we are already there, why not give it a try. We rode the motorcycle of the guy called habal-habal. Two motorcycle for the two of us riding At first i don’t want to ride motorcycle because i am really paranoid and i promised myself not to ride at motorcycle. Also, we can see trucks in front of us. We don’t even have helmet!!. I guess that motorcycle ride is included on our experience.
Then we reach the ATV Your Brother Travel and Tours. There were price list. They said we should try the ATV to Lava, but as per checking that cost 1800 each. What the guy told us is 1500 but he agreed to our price 1500. But that was P1500 EACH. What we wanted is double ride, me at the back of honey, and we thought the price is 1500 for the two of us since its not a peak season. But the price is each and we don’t want to argue anymore.
We wanted to back out. But we were there already, we only tried the 45 minute ride. We don’t want took the 2-3 hour ride just to see the Lava below the Mayon Volcano. It’s also 10 AM and sun is all set. We were not prepared for this we didn’t have something to cover our arms. We already rode ATV before in Boracay for 3 hours, we just wanted to experience it there in Legazpi. So the cost is P1200 for double ride since hubby still think i cant ride on my own ( Nahihiripan ka! he said on my first try. 🙂

As we got near the Mayon, our tour guide stopped. We thought we made something wrong. But he stopped because he wanted to ask for our Cellphone for picture-taking.
Oh this is another stop and picture thing. We like it because he was the one who offer at first to take pictures. Maybe he already know why people are go there just to take pictures. Also asked him that i will ride his ATV for even a moment and let him took a picture of me.

After the tour the tour guy offered us something to drink and a cold towel. Sweet and very thoughtful.

Maybe if i ride on my own on the whole trip without the help of the tour guide, i would say this is a 5star experience. My heart even beat faster the moment i rode the habal habal rather than the ATV. 🙂

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Ligńon Hill

Ligńon Hill. As per checking other blogs, we must wake up early to trek to Ligńon Hill. I set the alarm at 5am. But you cant resist to press the snooze. So we woke up at 630. Ate Breakfast and ready to leave. We rode a tricycle to Ligńon Hill. One ride tricycle always cost us P50-70 . I say maybe its how people there to earn extra on tourist even local like us.

We wanted to take picture at Ligńon Hill mark but hubby said we do it afterwards to get rid of the guy offering us many activities there. Unfortunately, that does not happen since we rode the Habal habal downward. (included on ATV at Mayon Volcano story)

Anyways, we started our trek at 835am. At first its not so steep. But after 10 minutes, started to get tired. Heart beating fast. Good thing we were on a right outfit, rubber shoes, sweat shirt, comfortable jeggings. Its a Thursday and only the two of us, aside from the two couple going down maybe they started at 6am. We made several stops. For picture also to rest and enjoy the view. You can see the airport from the top. The steep of the hill is like a 45 degree angle. Its like stepping on stairs.

But the view at the top is breathtaking. You can view Leazpi at 360.
There are thrilling activities like 320-meter zipline (Php200) and rappelling and so many others.
There was a guy who offered us to ride ATV at the foot of the hill came with a motorcycle and continue his offer. Thats another story..

Lignon Hill

Lignon HIll

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